{"id":2866,"date":"2023-12-11T15:08:21","date_gmt":"2023-12-11T05:08:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/?p=2866"},"modified":"2023-12-11T15:08:22","modified_gmt":"2023-12-11T05:08:22","slug":"dealing-with-our-mistakes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/2023\/12\/11\/dealing-with-our-mistakes\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with Our Mistakes"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

None of us is perfect \u2013 we all make mistakes! Some mistakes are not too bad. But others can cause a real problem. This is particularly true for leaders. Mistakes leaders make can have long term consequences for themselves, their organizations and others both within and outside their businesses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember a mistake I made decades ago when I was an HR specialist for a large business equipment company. I had been tasked to recruit a chauffeur for our CEO. I followed the normal recruitment process and identified one seemingly suitable applicant. However, when it came to doing his reference checks it seemed just too difficult to track down his employment history so I let it slide. The applicant was appointed but within a few weeks we discovered that the safe in the CEO\u2019s office had been burgled \u2013 from memory, several hundred dollars had been stolen. Yes, you\u2019ve guessed it. The police investigation identified the fingerprints left on the safe as those belonging to our newly appointed chauffeur who of course had a criminal record! Thankfully, I wasn\u2019t sacked but I\u2019m sure my reputation had been significantly compromised.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Deal with the Mistakes We Make as Leaders<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. When we make a mistake, often our natural reaction is to be horrified! \u201cHow could I have done that?!\u201d Of course, we may be tempted to cover it up, blame someone else or try to pretend it didn\u2019t matter but those reactions don\u2019t really deal with the problem. Particularly if the mistake, like the one I made, has a significant consequence. Therefore the first thing to do is to own it and \u2018fess up.
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  2. The next step is to forgive ourselves. As I\u2019ve already stated, we all make mistakes so we need to have sufficient humility to recognise we are not infallible. Unless we learn to forgive ourselves, which literally means letting go of any sense of shame or guilt we have as a result of the error, we will be unable to move on and learn from it.
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  3. When our mistakes have negative consequences for others, we need to own up and confess it, as far as possible, to whomever is affected. That may well result in some consequences for ourselves but usually people will appreciate our honesty.
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  4. As stated in point 2, learn from it. A ski instructor once said, \u201cIf you\u2019re not falling you\u2019ll never learn to ski!\u201d Usually we learn more from our mistakes and failures than from our successes. So come to see your mistake as a learning experience. From my mistake I quickly learned to stay clear of any applicants with a dodgy employment history and to be sure to do thorough reference checking before employing anyone.
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  5. \u00a0Reframe your mistake. Following on from point 4, reframe your mistake as a stepping stone to success. When a reporter asked Thomas Edison how he felt to have failed 1,000 times before his light bulb was a success, Edison replied, \u201cI didn\u2019t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps!\u201d Often mistakes occur because we haven\u2019t persevered sufficiently to develop the necessary knowledge and skill. Edison\u2019s response alerts us to the need to keep on learning and persisting until we have mastered the capabilities and skills needed to be successful in our roles. And because life and work always involve adjustment and change, successful leaders are committed to continuous, lifelong learning.
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  6. Ask for help when needed. When you have made a mistake and you can\u2019t solve the problem yourself be humble enough to seek help. Receiving help from someone who is more proficient is a great way to learn how to carry out the activity next time you face something similar. And most people are pleased to offer assistance.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Finally\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    A computer salesman who had just lost a multi-million dollar sale was ushered into the office of Thomas Watson, the first CEO of IBM. This crestfallen salesman admitted his mistake that resulted in his losing the sale and then said, \u201cSir, I expect you\u2019re going to fire me.\u201d \u201cFire you?\u201d exclaimed Watson. \u201cNo I\u2019m not going to fire you. I\u2019ve just invested several million dollars in your education!\u201d Making a mistake doesn\u2019t necessarily mean you\u2019re a loser \u2013 if you learn from it you can become a winner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Graham Beattie<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    How self-critical are you? One of the quickest ways to find out is to listen to your self-talk right after you have made a mistake. <\/p>\n

    In today’s post, Graham Beattie discusses how to respond when we make a mistake so we are the better for it. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":2869,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,34,40,47],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2866","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-accountability","category-personal-development","category-values","category-well-being"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2866","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2866"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2866\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2870,"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2866\/revisions\/2870"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2869"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2866"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2866"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.australiancoachingcollective.com.au\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2866"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}